The Right Habits
Have you ever had a breakthrough that didn’t have staying power? Have you ever realized something so clearly about yourself – and then not followed through on that insight? If so, it’s most likely because you didn’t have in place the tools of persistence, namely HABITS.
So, let’s take a look at habits. What are they? The free dictionary says: “A recurrent, often unconscious pattern of behavior that is acquired through frequent repetition.” So habits can be good or bad, as you surely suspected. Your job is develop the good ones. Now, it is commonly said that it takes 30 days to form a new habit, and I have found that to be fairly accurate. If I can keep it up for 30 days, I pretty much don’t mind it anymore.
So, in order to maintain your breakthrough you need only develop the right habits to keep you walking in the direction of your new found commitments. Great.
What are the right habits? I’ll give you three that work every time, though you may want to add some for your particular circumstance.
Habit one: Affirmations. Write them to suit your new commitments and then say them EVERYDAY. Don’t just write them and post them, or file them even. They must be SPOKEN by you, to be heard by you. With feeling, please.
Habit two: Keep your eye on the goal. Make time everyday to do some envisioning exercises. This is the number one habit to develop. Time spent here just speeds up your goals in coming to you. So who doesn’t want that?
Habit three: Chill. The more we can relax and “go downstream” the faster we can get to our goals. We have learned that we need to push, push, push to get things done, and it can really make us go backwards. So find a way to chill and do it EVERYDAY. I love meditation, but taking a walk is a good way, or knitting or drawing. Just practicing silence or prayer will do the trick. You know what it is that helps you get back to center. Do it.
Develop these three habits, by doing them everyday and the change in your life will amaze you. You will “live with the license of a higher order of beings” as Thoreau says. Life will become easier. You dream it, the way shows up, you go there. Repeat.
Now there are all sorts of stop gaps you can put in there too, and I encourage all that will support you. Telling a friend to hold you accountable, or even hiring a coach can help you to stick to your goal. Keeping a daily journal of your progress can help as well as making a vision board of your goal to keep it front and center in your mind.
The important thing is to keep advancing confidently in the direction of your dreams. Right habits can help you do this.